HOW TO LEAD YOUR FAMILY AND BUILD GOD’S HOUSE
The church is built on strong marriages and families dedicated to God’s House, forming a community that supports and nurtures each other through faith and commitment. Like a forest of intertwined roots, our strength comes from being connected. Generations before us laid a foundation with their dedication and faithfulness, creating a solid base that we must now continue building upon.
Therefore, we need to see our families as an integral part of God’s House. We are not merely attenders or receivers; we are builders and contributors and for the long haul. Anyone can be passionate for a season or short time, but to be faithful to the end with a godly family following Christ and building His house, that is exceptional.
Power Couples in Faith
Nothing is more powerful than a couple building God’s house together. Imagine the impact of couples like Abraham and Sarah, who obeyed God’s call and went by faith, not knowing where they were going (Hebrews 11:8). They trusted in God’s plan and were blessed for their obedience. Similarly, Aquila and Priscilla risked their lives for Paul and planted a church in their home, developing leaders and spreading the gospel (Romans 16:3-4). These examples show us the strength and impact of serving together faithfully, becoming true ‘power couples’ in faith. How can you pursue this with your family? Below are some practical truths we must understand.
3 Truths On Building God’s House with Your Family
#1 There is no such thing as “perfect balance”, only unity.
Everyone is looking for balance. How do I balance my work, life, ministry, marriage, parenting, projects, emotions…the list can go on. The truth is there is no such thing as perfect balance. I hope that sets you free a bit. Instead we need to understand that a husband, wife, and the Lord form together a three-braided cord that is not easily broken. This is a picture of unity and strength. Your unity together will bring stability to your life.
Unity can be challenging, especially when your spouse is the opposite of you. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Learn to embrace your differences with your wife; she makes you whole. Newly married couples, remember that some tension arises from resisting the truth that your spouse may be 100% different than you. These differences are strengths, not weaknesses. When you come together, you fill in each other’s gaps, creating a complete, unified partnership.
Colossians 3:19 encourages husbands to love their wives and not be harsh, bringing warmth and structure to the home like a well-structured fireplace rather than a loose wildfire. Men, be intentional and gentle, ensuring your home is a place of warmth and security, not chaos. Strive for unity in your home and marriage.
#2 Take your kids along on the ride.
My wife and I learned early on the importance of modeling our faith to our children. We talk about church, share our excitement for ministry, and invite the Holy Spirit into our lives every single day. Our daughters see our commitment and love for the church, and it influences them deeply. I encourage you to pray together with your family, take communion, and involve them in your church activities. It won’t always be perfect, especially with young children, but it’s a lifestyle. Early Sunday mornings, skipped naps, and late prayer nights became a part of our rhythm. We can choose to embrace it and love it and I believe we are blessed by it. Model what being a living sacrifice unto the Lord looks like and watch your children follow suit.
#3 When you build God’s house, He will take care of yours.
Hebrews 6:10 says, “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.” This assures us that God knows the work we do in His house, he isn’t oblivious to the labor, sacrifice, serving, and giving that is happening. Our work matters to Him and He is just and will repay his servants.
Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:31-33 “Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
You see, the world chases after material things, bringing anxiety and emptiness to their lives; but we, as followers of Christ, prioritize His Kingdom and Jesus says, “all these things” will be added to us. We must choose to put God’s Kingdom first and to trust that He will acknowledge our faithfulness and be our Provider in all that we need. I remember when my wife and I were looking for our first house. By some miraculous way not only did we find a perfect home for a newly married couple, but we could afford it, had to put no money down, and it cost less than the rent we were paying already. God provided in ways we couldn’t have imagined.
Personal Reflection Question: Do you see your family as an integral part of the local church?
The church is built up bystrong marriages and families committed to the House of the Lord and seeking first the Kingdom of God. I pray your family is a pillar in the House of God leaving an eternal legacy as we build together, rooted in faith and united in God’s purpose.
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