Tim Lutz

How to Lead Your Family in Worship

How to Lead Your Family in Worship

You may not walk around your house singing praise ballads into a wireless microphone with a guitar slung over your back (just in case), but you are a worship leader. You may not play an instrument on a stage in front of hundreds of people every Sunday, but you are a worship leader. You may not have a smash-hit single on a WOW Worship CD compilation from 1995, but you are a worship leader!

When you think about “worship,” you’re probably thinking about music (plus all the things I just mentioned above). But worship is not about music—or even about what can be seen. Worship is the posture of our hearts toward God, reflected in our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. It flows out of the sum total of who we are. It’s not primarily about the songs we sing, the words we say, or how we look on the outside. Remember: “For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7).

Paul urges us in Romans 12:1, “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.”

Our ultimate calling as men is to lead our families into worship—into the presence of God, into the fullness of our faith, and into the truth of Jesus. But if our lives aren’t centered on Him, and if the things of this world consume us, then those things will inevitably receive our worship. Please make no mistake: we were created to worship. Without realizing it, we can end up worshiping our kids, sports, the stock market, or our careers. These things are not wrong to enjoy, but when they take a higher place in our lives than Jesus and His will for us, they become idols.

Men, your family doesn’t need a rock star—they need a worshiper. They need a man who will set the tone, guard the atmosphere, and fix his eyes on Jesus. Lead boldly, because the way you worship will shape the way your family follows Christ.

Ask yourself these questions to see where your worship might be directed:

  1. What do I spend most of my time doing (habits, hobbies, or obsessions)?
  2. What consumes the majority of my thoughts?
  3. What do I spend most of my money on (beyond regular expenses)?

Here are some practical ways to lead your family in worship:

  1. Talk often about the things of God with your family—wonder, explore, and discuss.
  2. Play worship music in your home regularly to create an atmosphere of gratitude and thankfulness.
  3. Make serving others a priority in your home. Join something bigger than yourselves: go to church together, serve, and get connected.
  4. Set the culture and direction of your home clearly and boldly: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15).

Tim Lutz

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THOUGHTS OF A MARRIED MAN

THOUGHTS OF A MARRIED MAN

Have you ever thought about a couple that’s been happily married for a really long time, and wondered “How?!” Maybe it’s a couple you’ve known your whole life from church, or family friends you see at parties occasionally. Maybe it’s your aunt and uncle, or if you’re one of the lucky ones like me, your own parents. I think this reaction of shock and awe comes from statistics we learn young that “50% of marriages end in divorce,” and 50/50’s not exactly great odds in most situations. 

While this statistic is daunting, it should cause us to reflect on what the institution of marriage is meant to be in the first place, in contrast to how so many people have defined it. In Matthew 19:5, when Jesus was asked about divorce, he replies with Genesis 2:24, quoting, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ Then He expounds, “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

This new “person” made of “one flesh” now has its own identity, needs, and purpose.

Marriages falter and fail, when one-half of this ‘whole’ spends more time focusing on their own desires, needs or impulses, rather than the needs of their marriage. These indulgences might range from uncompromising perspectives to personal ambitions to selfish habits and addictions. While we are born inherently selfish, if we enter into marriage with our selfish ambitions left unchecked and unsurrendered, we will find ourselves struggling to have a healthy, sustainable marriage.

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

– Ephesians 5:25

Christ Loved…and Gave Himself Up for HER. This is the ultimate call to selflessness. Marriage comes with a command to serve our wives and our families. As we learn to humble ourselves as men and surrender our personal ambitions to God’s will, He will grant us the grace to lead our wives and families in love and humility.

Throughout my marriage, I have learned that self-serving pursuits, outside of God’s plan and timing, will never benefit my marriage in the long run. To be clear, I’m not talking about getting golf lessons to improve my handicap, or getting into a hobby with my bros- Please men: Get a hobby, and get some Bros! But I am talking about playing video games until 2am, because you’ve got to defeat the final boss…or an old habit that’s quickly becoming an addiction, because you can’t seem to stop scrolling, or drinking, or gambling.

Wherever you’re at, and whatever situation you find yourself in today, pause.

Allow the Lord to help you evaluate the state of your heart. We can pray this prayer like David prayed in the Psalms, “Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!” – Psalm 139:23-24. 

As we pursue holiness, with a greater passion than we ever have before, God will transform us into incredible men of strength, honor, and integrity, and we will watch our marriages grow into happy, fun, fulfilling relationships.

Life Applications:

  1. Are you seeking the Lord daily to reveal the state of your heart, as David did in Psalm 139?  What might God be showing you right now about your character, leadership, or attitude toward your marriage?
  2. What “self-serving pursuits” might be undermining the health of your marriage?  Be honest—are there hobbies, habits, or hidden sins that you’ve justified but that are slowly eroding trust, time, or intimacy?
  3. How are you actively loving your wife “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her”?  What would it look like this week to sacrificially serve her needs above your own in a specific and tangible way?

Tim Lutz

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