EPISODE 06
DATING, PORN & FAMILY
In this episode, join us for a round table discussion where we unpack some actual questions from our Remnant community and practical wisdom about relationships, being a dad and a husband, and even touching on
combating addiction, plus much more.
We know this episode has something every man can take away to improve their life.
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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
- What to look for in a future spouse.
- How to live a well-balanced life.
- Being mindful of the state of your home.
- Problems to overcome when you first get married.
- Overcoming a porn addiction.
- Practically pastoring your family.
- How to connect young men to the church community
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
0:57 – 🔑 THE BIGGEST PIECE OF ADVICE FOR SINGLE MEN LOOKING FOR A SPOUSE?
- Don’t get so focused on the person you’re pursuing that you lose sight of Jesus.
- Make sure you have accountability over your life, some men that can speak wisdom and guidance into your situation.
- Allow God to lead you to the right person at the right time.
3:36 – 🔑 AS THE MAN OF THE HOUSE, HOW DO YOU BALANCE EVERYTHING FROM THE FAMILY TO CAREER TO ALONE TIME?
- Get (and keep) a calendar. You schedule time for what’s important to you. Set your non-negotiables.
- Get up earlier. Starting your day earlier keeps you on track.
- Be agile with your calendar – every season requires a shift.
- Have regular check-in with your spouse to make sure you’re aligned.
- Always ask God for guidance about the state of your home.
- Leading your wife does not mean changing your wife. Love your wife, and let God change her. Die daily so that she may live an abundant life.
- Listening to your wife can make you even better. You can lead your home without being a dictator.
11:30 – 🔑 HOW TO HELP SOMEONE WHO’S ADDICTED TO PORN?
- Get accountability.
- You can cast a spirit off of a person, but you cannot release that person’s grip on that spirit. They need to let it go.
- Genuinely walk with the person and be there for the peaks and the valleys.
- You have to decide: You must put the lust to death, or you’re going to die to it.
- Ask God to reveal what the addiction you’re struggling with is doing to your life.
15:57 – 🔑 WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE TO PASTOR YOUR FAMILY?
- Look for every opportunity to talk to your wife and kids about God and His creation.
- Show your family what it’s like to live out your faith, pray with others and serve God and His people.
- In everything you do, find a way to incorporate Christ; it’s at the forefront of your family’s mind.
- Model what matters – even if you must apologize and repent of your shortcomings. It makes you more approachable.
- You cannot replicate what you want; you can only replicate who you are. Who you are will show through your children.
20:29 – 🔑 WHAT IS A HEALTHY WAY FOR ME TO BEGIN DATING AND GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE?
- In the beginning, keep it casual – don’t be weird.
- Dating is friendship and getting to know them deeper.
- Be on guard not to cross lines mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Some things must be saved for marriage.
22:45 – 🔑 HOW CAN I GET MY 21-YEAR-OLD SON INTO CHURCH
- First, become his friend, earn his trust, and encourage him to open up to you.
- Model what the church is to your son, and continue to pray for him and his situation.
- Don’t undermine the power of your prayer; God is pursuing who you’re praying for.
QUESTION FOR REFLECTION:
- Which practical point are you going to apply in your life?
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