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EP06: DATING, PORN & FAMILY

December 20, 2022

EPISODE 06

DATING, PORN & FAMILY

In this episode, join us for a round table discussion where we unpack some actual questions from our Remnant community and practical wisdom about relationships, being a dad and a husband, and even touching on
combating addiction, plus much more.

We know this episode has something every man can take away to improve their life.

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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

What to look for in a future spouse.
How to live a well-balanced life.
Being mindful of the state of your home.
Problems to overcome when you first get married.
Overcoming a porn addiction.
Practically pastoring your family.
How to connect young men to the church community

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

0:57 – 🔑 THE BIGGEST PIECE OF ADVICE FOR SINGLE MEN LOOKING FOR A SPOUSE?

Don’t get so focused on the person you’re pursuing that you lose sight of Jesus.
Make sure you have accountability over your life, some men that can speak wisdom and guidance into your situation.
Allow God to lead you to the right person at the right time.

3:36 – 🔑 AS THE MAN OF THE HOUSE, HOW DO YOU BALANCE EVERYTHING FROM THE FAMILY TO CAREER TO ALONE TIME?

Get (and keep) a calendar. You schedule time for what’s important to you. Set your non-negotiables.
Get up earlier. Starting your day earlier keeps you on track.
Be agile with your calendar – every season requires a shift.
Have regular check-in with your spouse to make sure you’re aligned.
Always ask God for guidance about the state of your home.
Leading your wife does not mean changing your wife. Love your wife, and let God change her. Die daily so that she may live an abundant life.
Listening to your wife can make you even better. You can lead your home without being a dictator.

11:30 – 🔑 HOW TO HELP SOMEONE WHO’S ADDICTED TO PORN?

Get accountability.
You can cast a spirit off of a person, but you cannot release that person’s grip on that spirit. They need to let it go.
Genuinely walk with the person and be there for the peaks and the valleys.
You have to decide: You must put the lust to death, or you’re going to die to it.
Ask God to reveal what the addiction you’re struggling with is doing to your life.

15:57 – 🔑 WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE TO PASTOR YOUR FAMILY?

Look for every opportunity to talk to your wife and kids about God and His creation.
Show your family what it’s like to live out your faith, pray with others and serve God and His people.
In everything you do, find a way to incorporate Christ; it’s at the forefront of your family’s mind.
Model what matters – even if you must apologize and repent of your shortcomings. It makes you more approachable.
You cannot replicate what you want; you can only replicate who you are. Who you are will show through your children.

20:29 – 🔑 WHAT IS A HEALTHY WAY FOR ME TO BEGIN DATING AND GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE?

In the beginning, keep it casual – don’t be weird.
Dating is friendship and getting to know them deeper.
Be on guard not to cross lines mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Some things must be saved for marriage.

22:45 – 🔑 HOW CAN I GET MY 21-YEAR-OLD SON INTO CHURCH

First, become his friend, earn his trust, and encourage him to open up to you.
Model what the church is to your son, and continue to pray for him and his situation.
Don’t undermine the power of your prayer; God is pursuing who you’re praying for.

QUESTION FOR REFLECTION:

Which practical point are you going to apply in your life?

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