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REMNANT PODCAST EP. 06

This episode is a roundtable discussion where we took some time to answer questions on family, being a dad, porn, and dating…Whether you’re single and looking for a spouse.. or you’re a husband or father, this episode is for you.

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EP06: DATING, PORN & FAMILY

EPISODE 06

DATING, PORN & FAMILY

In this episode, join us for a round table discussion where we unpack some actual questions from our Remnant community and practical wisdom about relationships, being a dad and a husband, and even touching on
combating addiction, plus much more.

We know this episode has something every man can take away to improve their life.

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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

  • What to look for in a future spouse.
  • How to live a well-balanced life.
  • Being mindful of the state of your home.
  • Problems to overcome when you first get married.
  • Overcoming a porn addiction.
  • Practically pastoring your family.
  • How to connect young men to the church community


KEY TAKEAWAYS:

0:57 – 🔑 THE BIGGEST PIECE OF ADVICE FOR SINGLE MEN LOOKING FOR A SPOUSE?

  • Don’t get so focused on the person you’re pursuing that you lose sight of Jesus.
  • Make sure you have accountability over your life, some men that can speak wisdom and guidance into your situation. 
  • Allow God to lead you to the right person at the right time.


3:36 – 🔑 AS THE MAN OF THE HOUSE, HOW DO YOU BALANCE EVERYTHING FROM THE FAMILY TO CAREER TO ALONE TIME?

  • Get (and keep) a calendar. You schedule time for what’s important to you. Set your non-negotiables.
  • Get up earlier. Starting your day earlier keeps you on track.
  • Be agile with your calendar – every season requires a shift.
  • Have regular check-in with your spouse to make sure you’re aligned.
  • Always ask God for guidance about the state of your home.
  • Leading your wife does not mean changing your wife. Love your wife, and let God change her. Die daily so that she may live an abundant life.
  • Listening to your wife can make you even better. You can lead your home without being a dictator.


11:30 – 🔑 HOW TO HELP SOMEONE WHO’S ADDICTED TO PORN?

  • Get accountability.
  • You can cast a spirit off of a person, but you cannot release that person’s grip on that spirit. They need to let it go.
  • Genuinely walk with the person and be there for the peaks and the valleys.
  • You have to decide: You must put the lust to death, or you’re going to die to it.
  • Ask God to reveal what the addiction you’re struggling with is doing to your life.


15:57 – 🔑 WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE TO PASTOR YOUR FAMILY?

  • Look for every opportunity to talk to your wife and kids about God and His creation.
  • Show your family what it’s like to live out your faith, pray with others and serve God and His people.
  • In everything you do, find a way to incorporate Christ; it’s at the forefront of your family’s mind.
  • Model what matters – even if you must apologize and repent of your shortcomings. It makes you more approachable.
  • You cannot replicate what you want; you can only replicate who you are. Who you are will show through your children.


20:29 – 🔑 WHAT IS A HEALTHY WAY FOR ME TO BEGIN DATING AND GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE?

  • In the beginning, keep it casual – don’t be weird. 
  • Dating is friendship and getting to know them deeper. 
  • Be on guard not to cross lines mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Some things must be saved for marriage.


22:45 – 🔑 HOW CAN I GET MY 21-YEAR-OLD SON INTO CHURCH

  • First, become his friend, earn his trust, and encourage him to open up to you.
  • Model what the church is to your son, and continue to pray for him and his situation. 
  • Don’t undermine the power of your prayer; God is pursuing who you’re praying for.

QUESTION FOR REFLECTION:

  • Which practical point are you going to apply in your life?

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